boys to men

Gender Stuff, Part 1

I’ve been thinking a lot about the dynamic between the sexes lately.

Maybe it’s spring and the warming of the earth, the tendency to mating rituals. Maybe it’s having a teenager at home and the accompanying hormone levels. Maybe it’s the stuck place I find myself in my writing.

So, a short series of posts on gender things.

Rebecca at Girl’s Gone Child has also been thinking about this dynamic. She wrote a passionate essay, Let’s Hear It for the Boys.  (I couldn’t link directly to the post.  Scroll down to the post, Monday 2 March.  And warning for some of you: Rebecca can be quite bold and irreverent.)

I’ve been thinking about boys. About how boys grow into men. And about what an amazing job it is to raise good men. In a society that both reveres and reviles boys and their testosterone.

The mothers I know who have teenage boys are my heroes – not saints – heroes.

All mothers know that they are human, occasionally auditioning for the Bad-Mother-of-the-Year Award. This is something we fear, cry about sometimes, recover from, often laugh about later.

But it’s still a serious thing. Mothers – and fathers – of boys: my hat is off to you.


listening to: The Academy Is…, His Girl Friday


  • Gender is a tricky thing, good for you for taking it on.

    You are not the only one who would throw in ‘fathers’ as an afterthought in a discussion about parenting and raising ‘good children’ (by accident or as an exmaple?) Everyone seems to take for granted that parenting is a women’s job to the point that we don’t question it or even realize that the assumption is there.

    don’t even get me started on heteronormativity or child-free families!

  • oh my god. someone is reading this. thank you, Catherine, for jumping into the comment pool.

    Gender is indeed tricky, and multi-layered, and fraught with arguments of genetics vs. culture – something i speak to in part 4 of this series of posts. And there are so many, many possible topics.

    on the addition of fathers: it was intentional to include them, but they were not the focus of my post for these reasons: my view is skewed by the fact that i am a mother, and my conversations on parenting are mostly with other mothers – not exclusively, but mostly; also, i think it is a particular challenge for parents to relate to the raising of the other gender (mothers to sons, fathers to daughters), and as i was speaking of boys, my salute was mostly to the mothers of teenage boys

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