I have often said that I wish I had the confidence at Kristina’s age (any age) that she has. I usually amend that to say that I wish I had the confidence now, at my age, that Kristina has. She’s kind of a rock star that way.
In middle school, Kristina attended the public school gifted program. At the time, it was good for her – wickedly challenging, but also quite restrictive and structured – mostly a good thing. For high school, she elected to leave the program to have more options and flexibility.
In 7th grade, they read Orson Scott Card’s Ender’s Game, which continues to be one of Kristina’s favourite books. Their task was to take a quote from the book and work up a poster representing it’s meaning.
This is what Kristina created.
There was a little glare as I photographed it. From the top it says,
I am “the visionary” “the messenger” “the mentor”
and I’m not a killer
Below the photo, it reads,
perfect perfect perfect perfect
(Actually, it’s missing the w, but we decided not to fret about that. See? Progress.)
“All you have to do now is be perfect.” 166
That last bit is a quote from the book.
Her teacher didn’t get it.
But I do.
I suspect you will, too.
While I have written about body image and self-esteem here and here on the blog, I have not explored it as deeply as I would like to. I have many more draft posts written around the subjects of self-worth, self-image, body image, approval, confidence, and yes, perfection.
Some of those drafts stem from conversations with friends and family. Some come out of the tormented conversations I have with my mirror and my fears.
I’m still working on those posts – I come back to them, look at the progress I’ve made, become chagrined at the progress I have not made, take stock, have more conversations, and seek out encouragement to get through the next part.
Brené’s new book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You Are Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, is out now. I just ordered mine. I think anyone who knows me will be certain Brené wrote this book for me. I suspect a lot of people feel that way.
Until the book arrives, I am finding encouragement in the links from the Perfect Protest post (scroll down to the links).
Her dance video and admissions of (im)perfection brought tears of laughter and joy. She rocks. Or funks. All out. Seriously, go watch the 2-minute video. I promise, it will make your day.