a better question

When you meet someone new, there are the getting-to-know-you questions: Where did you grow up? Do you have siblings? Do you like travelling? Can you drive stick?

(No? That last one is just me, then?)

In the movie, Crazy Heart, Jeff Bridges’ country singer character meets Maggie Gyllenhaal’s when she interviews him for a small-town newspaper.

Later, over a drink, he wants to know more about her.

What is the most interesting thing about you?

That is simply one of the best questions I’ve ever heard.


about the photo

Tina gave us these glasses for our first wedding anniversary. I love the way the light comes though the bubbly glass. I’m happy with the way an old scotch swirls in them, as well.

Canon 40D 100mm 2.8L | aperture 2.8 |shutter 1/100 | ISO 160


    • I thought about answering it in the post, but I’m not positive what it would be. In the moment, in the movie, it was a tender, from-the-heart answer, and it was exactly the truest thing. (Of course, it was also scripted, and I don’t have a writer feeding me my lines.)

      In the movie, Jean’s answer was, “I have a child.” Mine might be the same. Not that being a mother is the be-all and end-all of what a woman does, or what I do, but it is in being a mother that I have grown so much, have developed some of the most interesting aspects of myself, have been stretched to my limit, and found that I am just a little bit more elastic than that.

      Having a child means that my heart is walking around out there in the world. It is an incredibly vulnerable experience. And I find that vulnerability – and what it extends to – interesting.

    • I really liked the movie when we first watched it, earlier this year, and it is growing in me, with more time to sit – the story is finding deeper places to ripple out from. This question just keeps coming back to me. (I answered it above in response to Katie’s comment.)

  • My answer—no surprise—The most interesting thing about me is that I see possibility in every student I work with even when they are not succeeding at being a student at that moment in time. My definition of student is larger than just the warm bodies in my class because I think part of what defines our species is that we continue to be students until we take our last breath.

    • That is a fantastically interesting thing about you, I completely agree. You bring such passion to your chosen vocation – it is clearly more than a “career path” or a “job” for you. My all-time favourite US postage stamp came out about 20 years ago, and said Learning Never Ends. *here, here*

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