meet them where they are

Throughout her life – at every age – when people meet my daughter, or see us together, or hear about our relationship, they usually say one or both of the following: I hope I can have that kind of relationship with...

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no more standing outside the fire

March was odd. Kaylah was cleared to start her therapy leash walks, which was great. Then I pulled in a muscle in my back and was flat out for nearly two weeks, which was not great. Kristina was home for the second of those...

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thoughts in the dark, seven parts

Sometimes things are hard. Not starving-in-Africa hard. Not sold-into-slavery hard. Not homeless-under-a-bridge hard. Not… You get the idea. Just because it isn’t worse does not mean it’s not hard. Sometimes I...

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what do you have faith in?

I asked him this question, the night we became lovers. We had wedged ourselves into a claw-foot bathtub, enjoying the romance of the idea, but dismayed by how little water was left in the too-tiny tub with us. There was a long...

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feeling better already

Over the last two weeks, my computer and I have both been sick.  The cold is hanging on rather longer than I would like, and the computer gave indications of being willing to heal, before repeated relapses. Basically, the...

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